The Double Standard

I’m convinced humans are made for war.

We are attracted to drama and when there is no drama we create it. I’m literally amazed at how any organization can grow.

At any point someone is unhappy with something. Opinions are like butts, everyone has one and most of them stink.

It is easy to judge others in leadership. It’s easy to be a Monday morning quarterback. Here is a question I wrestle with…

Could I stand up against the judgement I place on others?

As a leader I cannot shut my brain off. When I go to an event I start critiquing right away. When I visit a church I start critiquing right away. The truth is I’m critiquing on Waffle House hours…24/7.

It’s easy to be a critic.

It’s difficult to lead.

When I start to critique I want to make sure it’s healthy and not negative. One way to tell if I’m being a leader or a critic is whether or not I hold myself to the same standards. If I critique someone harder then I critique myself I find it’s unhealthy.

Scripture says…

Therefore, every one of you who judges is without excuse. For when you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. Romans 2:1

I cannot hold someone to a standard I do not hold myself to.

Now, let’s get real.

Do you hold your friends to standards you don’t keep?

Do you hold your spouse to standards you do not keep?

Do you hold leadership/boss etc. to standards you do not keep?

A little grace goes a long way. I want to show grace because I’ve received amazing grace from God. I know I’ve dropped the ball a bunch. I know I’m a knucklehead. I know I don’t deserve grace, and yet God has poured it out on me.

So let’s show some grace. To our kids, to our friends, to our neighbors, to the world.

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Rob Shepherd

I am the full-time husband of a wonderful woman! I love being married! We are proud parents to twins, Hayden and Reese. In my spare time I am the pastor of Next Level Church. I have a relationship with God and it is an adventure. Oh and I wrote a book. It's called Even If You Were Perfect Someone Would Crucify You.


  1. Laura Spiers
    February 13, 2018

    Great post. I sometimes have a little bit the opposite problem. I give 100% so much of the time, and I expect others to do the same and am often disappointed when they don’t. But it’s okay that not everyone gives like I do. I tend to get frustrated over that. Something to work on. I love the notion of holding up to your own critique…

  2. Lidia DiLuccia
    February 16, 2018

    This is a great thing to think about before we make a judgement on someone else! Thank you for this


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