The Cost of Attention

I stink at multi-tasking.

And yet, I am so drawn to trying to do two things at once. What is so important that I cannot be fully present in the moment?

I know I’m not great at multi-tasking.

That doesn’t stop me from trying.

When you multi-task it costs you something.

We don’t get as much out of life when we attempt to do two things at once. According to psychologists when we multi-task it can cost us up to 40% of our productivity. One study shows…

So, it is worth it to pay attention.

We are better when we focus on one thing at a time.

When we pay attention we tell people…

  • You matter
  • You are important
  • I care about you

When we multi-task we tell people…

  • I matter more than you
  • My phone is more important than you
  • I would rather be somewhere else

Every Sunday at church, while I’m listening to someone, another person needs my attention. It is so exhausting to stay on target.

It costs me something to give someone my full attention, but the payoff is worth it. In the long run I get more out of each situation trying to give my full attention to it.

I stink at this with my kids.

I am trying to do better to put my phone away when my kids start talking. I want to communicate to them that they are worth the cost of my attention. Their value to me is immeasurable so I want to show them that by giving my attention fully to them.

What would happen if we focused on who we are with? What would happen if we made people feel valuable by showing them they have our undivided attention?

Who is worth the cost of your attention? Let’s work hard at giving that to them.

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Rob Shepherd

I am the full-time husband of a wonderful woman! I love being married! We are proud parents to twins, Hayden and Reese. In my spare time I am the pastor of Next Level Church. I have a relationship with God and it is an adventure. Oh and I wrote a book. It's called Even If You Were Perfect Someone Would Crucify You.

One Comment

  1. Ruth
    January 24, 2018

    Love this! I, too, am guilty of this…but I’m working on it! Nothing is as satisfying as a connected conversation . I’ve also found when I do this it helps later. I recall conversations that help me anticipate the needs or desires of an individual when I’ve given them my undivided attention- thus strengthening that bond even more.

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