This Friday I’m Going To See Strippers And Why I Only Read Playboy For The Articles

This Friday I’m going to the strip club. Or as Pacman Jones (NFL player) calls it the scrip club. I’m going to make it rain dollar bills up in there. I’m not really touchy feel and I’m kind of a germaphobe so I plan on wadding up the dollar bills and throwing them at the naked ladies. Well, I’ve heard in VA it’s illegal for them to be fully nude. So I guess I’ll be throwing money at the almost naked, but partially covered with glittery tassels women. Any guys interested in going with me? We will make a guys night out of it. Hit me up if you want to enjoy some good scrippin’ on Friday.

I just got done reading the latest issue of Playboy. It has some amazing articles in there. In fact it’s so good that I’m going to re-read it. I’ll probably end up reading it three of four times. It’s that good!

Be honest. What thoughts went through your head when you read the above sentences about scrip clubs and Playboy? Does it seem wrong for a pastor to talk about? How would you feel if you saw me coming out of the scrip club while reading a Playboy?

The truth is I’m not going to a scrip club and I’ve never read Playboy (and I don’t intend to start reading it or looking at it’s pictures). So if I’m not going why did I write that? Well, I’m hoping that you felt the same thing that I feel when I see Christian women posting on Facebook about going to see the movie Magic Mike and reading and then re-reading the book 50 Shades of Grey.

If it’s not okay for a preacher to go to the scrip club then I’m thinking it’s not okay for Christian women to support a movie about male strippers. I haven’t read 50 Shades of Grey, but I’ve heard enough media people talk about blushing while reading it to know that it’s not wise for me to read. If it’s not wise for me to read then it’s not wise for Christian women to read.

As a kid in the church children’s choir we used to sing a song that contained the lyrics, “Input output what comes in is what comes out.” We also sang a song with the lyrics, “be careful little eyes what you see. For the  Father up above is looking down in love, so be careful little eyes what you see.” Those songs have stuck with me to this day.

Why should we be careful at what we see? Because things impact us in ways that we don’t even see. What we pour into our lives comes out at some point. It may seem like harmless fun but that’s like saying eating nothing but pure sugar is harmless eating. Input output what goes into your eyes will find its way out at some point.

“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” Jesus.

At the end of the day it’s about honoring God with our eyes. But if that doesn’t motivate you how about not living a double standard. If as a women you wouldn’t want your man to go to a strip club or read Playboy then you should set the example and not do something that’s similar. This post isn’t supposed to come off as judgmental. It’s supposed to get us to think.  Let’s keep nudy stuff for marriage.

There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death. Proverbs 14:12

Do you think I’m being legalistic? Is it different because images impact girls differently than guys? What are other reasons that we should be careful about what we see? Will you see Magic Mike or read 50 Shades of Grey?

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Rob Shepherd

I am the full-time husband of a wonderful woman! I love being married! We are proud parents to twins, Hayden and Reese. In my spare time I am the pastor of Next Level Church. I have a relationship with God and it is an adventure. Oh and I wrote a book. It's called Even If You Were Perfect Someone Would Crucify You.

73 Comments

  1. Brian
    July 1, 2012

    First, I’ve never been first…hope no one jumped in before me.

    Rob,
    largest double standard on the planet. Seen plenty of what I should have not…and wished I never had.

    “be careful little eyes what you see. For the Father up above is looking down in love, so be careful little eyes what you see.”

    Brian

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    • July 2, 2012

      Brian, congrats on being first.

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  2. July 2, 2012

    This is along the same lines of my next blog. Someone offered to lend me 50 Shades of Grey, I declined. There is def. a double standard BUT >>>>>> I really think for most women it’s “just for fun” and for men it’s something different. That being said, if there was a movie about female strippers and groups of men were planning their weekend around it, their wives/girlfriends would not be happy. It has always bothered that so many TV shows and movies have “scrip” club scenes.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Joan, it’s becoming normal. Scrip clubs appear in all sorts of movies and TV shows. I hate when they put it in something that would otherwise be a decently clean movie.

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    • Greg Fry
      August 2, 2014

      I do not wish to come off as confrontational but I disagree with the comment that for women its just for fun, but for men its different. This is a traditional radical feminist double standard argument

      Most husbands and boyfriends say that their wives come home from such events very sexually aroused. You seem to be saying that women becoming sexually aroused by naked men who are not their husband, is just fun, but men becoming sexually aroused by naked women other than their wife is not just fun but perhaps deeply harmful. This makes no logical sense. I believe there is no difference. It’s wrong for men in exactly the same way that its wrong for women. We have to stop saying that the same sin is worse when men do it. It is not true in the eyes of GOD and it is not true in its effect on society.

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  3. July 2, 2012

    When you mentioned this “Magic Mike” and were talking about pornos yesterday, I had no idea what you were going on about. I thought a magic mike was some kind of new position. Anyhow, I still don’t know anything about it, so I am probably safe.

    Now, when it comes to lust and issues with sex, I am far from a saint. I get tripped up on this stuff more than I would like, but one thing for me helps a bit. I think, what if someone that I cared about caught me doing this? If it would cause me shame and embarrassment, I should probably stay away.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Daniel, I’m glad that you know nothing about Magic Mike.

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  4. shepherdmim
    July 2, 2012

    Interesting observation. When I read the title, I was not concerned–why because I know you. I love the quote: “Live your life in such a way that if anyone should speak badly of you, no one would believe it.”

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  5. Danielle
    July 2, 2012

    I’m going out on a limb here….. You illustrated this week on your blog that women are different than men. I think this is one way they are different. I’ve not read 50 Shades of Grey, but I’ve spoken to several women who mentioned it improved their married sex lives. That seems like a very positive outcome. These women are not, as a result of reading it, addicted to porn. It creates a lust for the person in their lives that they love, a desire for intimacy. As far as Magic Mike, there is a huge double standard….. they won’t show those men nude….. not like they do in every strip club scene with female strippers! I’m joking-(sort of)! But seriously, women don’t respond to this like men. I will not need to call up images in my mind of Channing Tatum in order to find my husband desirable. Nor will I need to see similar images again next week. For the record, I have not seen Magic Mike.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Great points Danielle! I too, have NOT seen Magic Mike.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Great points Danielle. I would still say that it’s not ultimately beneficial. Paul wrote in the Bible, that everything was permissible but not everything was beneficial. It may not affect girls the same way but it does affect them. It may have a different affect but at the end of the day I would still say it’s better to be safe then see Magic Mike or read 50 Shades of Grey.

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    • DP
      July 2, 2012

      – Perhaps a bit legalistic.
      – Slightly, but not really. Women are less likely to become addicted to the lust… they are still likely to lust.
      – I’m going to pass on this question… I’d be viewed as more liberal than I really am if I answered my first thought. On the conservative side I will say that thoughts can become actions if one is not careful… if you don’t play with fire, you probably won’t be burned.
      – Probably not to both, although I wouldn’t feel the need to avoid them. I’m a dude though so maybe this movie / book would affect me differently.

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      • DP
        July 2, 2012

        This was supposed to be a new post as an answer to your questions… oh well. Have you read Ezekiel lately? Speaking of porn…

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  6. July 2, 2012

    I emailed you yesterday concerning this post, mostly because I couldn’t wait to comment on it!

    I don’t really see a double standard, what I see is the same thing we see in everyones life. Christian and Non-Christian. That is the ability to always justify bad behavior. Guys do it, women do it, children do it. I don’t have a fat clue what either one of these things are, but if they have recieved the thumbs down rating from you, then I can imagine they are pretty bad, because I would say you are really leniet on the movies you see.

    I thought Magic Mike was a refrence to Michael Jordan, and 50 shades of grey was make-up.Now, I am not saying these women should go see this movie, nor read this book. I am strongly against it if it promotes the things it seems too. I believe however it is something each of them are going to have to do some soul searching and decide if they should see it or not.

    An old saying came to my mind yesterday when I read this post, “Sometimes it is easier to ride in the boat, rather than paddle it”. Not sure why, but now it seems sort of fitting.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Joseph, good thoughts. I hadn’t heard that quote before. It is easy for all of us to justify the things that we want. I’m guilty of that.

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  7. July 2, 2012

    Nailed it.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Thanks Kev! I appreciate the retweet!

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  8. Geoff Fox
    July 2, 2012

    Matthew McConaughey and Channing Tatum in the same movie…no I am sure its a wonderful scrip..Academy Award winner. That movie may not be selling ‘sex’ but its certainly selling ‘skin’. While women and men are affected differently by images, the movie is being sold as a visual excitment. I am by no means an inapproprite visual image novice, but I would NEVER go see the female version of this movie, even if I were single and no one would ever know I went. It wouldnt feel right.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Geoff, agreed. The male version of this movie is called Showgirls. It had Jessy from Saved By The Bell. I loved Saved By The Bell, but that wasn’t enough to lead me to see that movie. I wouldn’t watch that with anyone. If I ever did watch it I wouldn’t want the world to know. I have never seen it but I know it’s not good for me.

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      • DP
        July 2, 2012

        You didn’t miss anything… if Magic Mike is like Show Girls, it’s not worth watching.

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  9. July 2, 2012

    Great thoughts! I am a first time reader, saw your post tweeted out by Kevin.

    I think whenever this topics comes up the male side of the issue is more heavily focused on, but it is just a crucial for women to be aware of what content they are putting into their minds!

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    • July 2, 2012

      Stephen, thanks for stopping by! Not only that but you left a comment! Thanks!

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  10. July 2, 2012

    I have no interest in either book or movie (I have actually never heard of Magic Mike, but I don’t watch television). My kids are watching every single move I make. It’s my job to model the behavior I want to see in them.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Heather, great point. Our kids are looking up to us! Love it!

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  11. Brittany
    July 2, 2012

    Completely agree. Awesome post!

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    • July 2, 2012

      Thanks Brittany! Is this your first time to my blog?

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  12. Cari Britt
    July 2, 2012

    I so agree with you Rob. I do disagree with those who are saying that the images don’t impact women the same as men. The posts that I have seen talking about this movie using words like “yummy” suggest that the impact is the same. In today’s society, it’s my opinion, that women are just about equal to men when it comes to lusting after images or people. Either way the Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality. I think the book and the movie would both qualify. There are lots of other books out there that will help you renew your passion for your husband without compromising your walk with Christ. I love the comment about our children watching us. A few years ago my teenage daughter asked me why she wasn’t allowed to watch certain movies but I was. She wanted to know why it was garbage for her but not for me. It caused me to take a hard look at my walk and my talk and the need for them to match up.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Cari, thanks for the comment. I’m not sure at what age we think we can handle adult material. We justify it by saying we are old enough or can handle it but there is a lot of stuff out there that we should think twice about seeing.

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      • Cari Britt
        July 2, 2012

        The comment about that book helping a married couple’s sex life has kept me thinking. The idea that acting out on your husband the passions that were aroused by reading a book, is not really about your husband. What happens when the memories of that book fade? Do you then need to read another book to arouse passion? I have found that true passion for someone, whether it’s my husband, children, or people in general, comes from thinking about myself less and them more.

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  13. Meagan Swanson
    July 2, 2012

    Ughhh I read this trilogy – loved it and I’m going to watch the movie. Having read the book, I do have to say that the graphic sexual content was a little much but I did really enjoy the plot. The story of an abused toddler struggling through life, making mistakes, growing and learning, and changing his lifestyle after he fell in love with a woman whom he made his wife. Not trying to justify the book but there are definitely good attributes that haven’t been focused on in the press.
    Is Magic Mike any worse than Wedding Crashers were for minutes women’s breasts are flashed on screen and the boys just go from wedding to wedding to sleep with different girls? I don’t know?
    You make many good points Rob!! And I applaud you for always posting your thoughts! XO

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    • July 2, 2012

      Meagan, thanks for your comment. I respect your opinion and love that you left your comment. I know that others might not agree with me but what you wrote is the reason why I’ve never seen Wedding Crashers. There are lots of movies that I want to see but I know I can’t handle the nudity. I love Steve Carrell but I still haven’t seen the 40 Year Old Virgin. Monica does a great job of checking out why a movie is rated what it’s rated. If it has nudity in it then I don’t go to see it. Thanks again for the comment.

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  14. Laura
    July 2, 2012

    Ok, I’ll start with this…. not only are we so thankful to have you as our pastor, Rob, but Stephen & I are so thankful that you speak truth, in love, into people’s life outside of the Sunday church thing. So, I’ve been pretty annoyed about this book & movie hullabaloo–so much so that I’ve had to condition myself to think that every occurrence of 50 Shades is referring to people’s inability to reach their summer tanning goal and that Magic Mike is a new Orlando player, as to not lash out with back-firing comments and judging people that I only know as deeply as my fb newsfeed travels. I don’t think you’re being legalistic, actually I think that is a really clear way of explaining how dangerous things in this world can be. Good looking out for people 🙂

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    • July 2, 2012

      Thanks Laura! I love having you guys at Next Level! I guess I’m kind of glad that people aren’t hiding the fact that they are seeing this movie and reading this book. At least to them it’s not a secret sin. At the same time the vast amount of FB messages about this led me to respond.

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      • Laura Smark
        July 2, 2012

        True about it not being a secret sin. The public drooling makes me nervous though.

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  15. Mollie
    July 2, 2012

    I’m glad someone else thinks this way…i hope you do step on people’s toes and make them think!

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    • July 2, 2012

      Mollie, thanks. Well, I hope I make them think. I hope that it will at least lead to healthy conversations about how to honor God with our eyes. Thanks for the comment.

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  16. Charlie
    July 2, 2012

    I’m a female and I don’t think you are being legalistic. It is NOT different whether the image impacts girls or guys, nudity is nudity. I was away from church for 14 years & I have been to strip clubs with girls and strip clubs with guys. I’m NOT proud of that, it makes me feel like Samson. Like I wasn’t fulfilling my purpose to Glorify God. I only learned about 50 Shades of Grey today & about Magic Mike about 2 days ago. I haven’t even seen any previews & I WILL NOT be watching that movie, ever. I don’t need to. If you are not with me then you are against me was another thing JESUS said. The more people that watch that movie, the more endorsement that movie has & the more likely it will be that more of those kinds of movies will be made. Hollywood needs to learn where to draw the line. I’m going to see Spiderman instead!!!

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    • July 2, 2012

      Thanks for your comment Charlie. As long as movies make money Hollywood will dish them out. Magic Mike opened pretty big so there will be more like this.

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  17. Lori Walker
    July 2, 2012

    Yep! I agree! I will certainly not see Magic Mike and as to the other movies, we typically wait until those movies come out on TBS and watched the extremely edited versions. And usually Dustin doesn’t watch them if he feels like it’s inappropriate, even on TBS.

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    • Lori Walker
      July 2, 2012

      Ugh typos, sorry I just reread my comment and hate the typos.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Lori, I hear ya. I also have had to wait for some movies to come to edited TV. Even then some still are too much for me to sit through.

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  18. Haylie
    July 2, 2012

    Finally someone says what I’ve been thinking! Thanks for a the great (and truthful) blog post!

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    • July 2, 2012

      Haylie, thanks for stopping by. Not everyone will agree with my thoughts. I hope that it will at least cause some to think.

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  19. July 2, 2012

    This has been on my mind lately as well. I agree with you and it’s not okay for women to lose their minds as I am witnessing on fb and other social medias. I would be hurt and offended if The roles were reversed and my husband behaved like these wild women. Let’s remember to behave with integrity and recognize who we represent as Christian women.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Dale, I agree. This post was for Christian women. Because we represent Jesus we should be different. There are certain things that should cause us to stand out. Now some won’t hold to my same convictions. I can’t control that. All I can do is respect them and allow the Holy Spirit to do His work.

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  20. Philly Cheese Stake Fill
    July 2, 2012

    The whole idea of sex frustrates me to such a high degree. I am 26 years old and been involved with a woman for over three years now where we are waiting until marriage for sex. Anything in regards to it in my face upsets me and just angers me. I don’t understand why we can’t just have sex with someone we love, the whole committed r.s. of a marriage is so much different than what it once was and it is such a topic on contentio between her and I that we don’t ever speak of it. I almost just out of spite want to wait every day after our wedding night that I went without it, to be the equivalent of every day I was denied. because. The bible says if you burn with lust you should get married. Well to be quite frank I am on FREAKING FIRE with lust and am 26 and not married. All I want to do is have a woman in my life that I can do those things with intimately in addition to having a companion for life. Sometimes as I look back on my life I yell in frustration with God over why it is this way. I hole heartedly want to have a Godly centered life, being evenly yoked, but this is one soar subject between me and God. Any insight or thoughts would be appreciated. I mean if I am being honest I just want to be sex machine and feel like God is denying me of my skills and passions of what I would like to do with myself. It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO frustrating. Waiting is not easy my friend it is one of the hardest things I have ever had to in my lfe. I think about putting it on a job application at times. Anyways, would be curious to know your thoughts.

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    • July 2, 2012

      My wife and I waited until marriage, and we are completely 100% it was the best decision we made as a dating couple. I understand your frustrations and have been exactly where you are! Rely on God for strength, guidance and wisdom and he will carry you through!

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    • July 2, 2012

      Philly, waiting is not easy. What makes it easier is to not feed it. Lust is never satisfied. Even when you are married. You have to starve it, and out smart it. If you feed lust even sex won’t satisfy it. My advice is to stay strong, find some other Christian guys to keep you accountable and continue to trust and wait. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.

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  21. T
    July 2, 2012

    Just a thought, i see alot of people posting how it doesnt effct women the same way it does men, and in some women it even has promoted a increased intimacy with their husbands. I think another question that needs to be asked is “How does your actions by seeing these movies,and reading these books, affect your husband? Straight up, when I view porn, those women are simply “objects”, although and I probably kid myself in thinking that I have detached all the emotion, but most professional would tell you men do detach most of it. Truth be asked, Women do you want your husbands viewing you as an object when you come back all hot and heavy after reading the book or going to the movie? Do you want him putting your face on the bodies of the women he has seared in his memory of the porn he has viewed? When he askes you to now do something “out of the ordinary” from your usual sexual practices, just remember he probably hasn’t thought this act up out of the blue and wants to experiement with you because of a greater love and closeness he now all of a sudden feels. He now thinks its going to be “acceptable” to objectify you because you have in essence given your approval to his actions by participating in similar activities. This movie and these books are the “get out of jail free card” us men have all been waiting for. You now can no longer look at us in disgust when you catch us watching porn, talking dirty, or going to the scrip club. We’re not addicted, we’re just trying to increase our intamacy with you, and now that you are on board – let the freak flag fly!!

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    • July 2, 2012

      T, I can tell you’ve been thinking about this for a while. You hit on some things that I think are good points. As a married couple I want and need my wife’s support. I appreciate that she looks at ratings and doesn’t go see things or rent things to would tempt either of us.

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  22. Heather pelczar
    July 2, 2012

    We are created to be entertained. By the glory of God. By what He has created even. men are created to be entertained by the beauty of His creation in a woman. And vice versa. HOWEVER, there are appropriate ways and inappropriate ways to be entertained by the beauty, brilliance and awesome intelligence of His design in creating people to be attractive to one another. Why is profitable for women to read these books in order to bring more “excitement” into the intimacy within their marriage? (this is a question in response to a comment above?) the justification that it does not effect a woman to view and read these things in the same way that it may effect a man has absolutely no bearing on whether or not these images, exploitations and mis uses of intelligence,beauty, creation and physical or mental entertainment is glorifying to God. In viewing these things, reading these things and justifying these things, are we giving the watching world a correct opinion of who our Father is, though He is not seen? No. We wouldn’t be. let’s stop justifying a pursuit of our own comfort and desire ( otherwise termed hedonism) and start readin gGods Word, being entertained by THAT and doing what that says.somewhere in there, you will find Him telling His people to avoid all appearances of evil. Even if they may seem innocuous to you.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Heather, great points. Also great word choice. Innocuous is not a word I’ve ever used. I’m impressed. Thanks for sharing your heart and challenging Christians.

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  23. July 2, 2012

    Rob, I had a twitter conversation with someone about this. She met her husband in a sfrip club. She has no problem with the movie or her husband going to the club. In her mind it’s just entertainment and doesn’t affect anything else. She and her husband are also looking for a church. At some point I realized she would never see my point on this. The Lord will have to change her heart and open her eyes.

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    • July 2, 2012

      Larry, whether it’s strip clubs, pornography, lying, cheating, stealing etc. it’s not our job to convict. We can challenge but if someone is not ready for it they won’t receive it. I’m glad that you were able to have that conversation. I hope that she finds a great church where she can grow in her faith.

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  24. July 2, 2012

    Rob, I’ve been to a “scrip” club, but we have one two miles away. Had to explain to my kids that despite being called the “Candy Store,” they don’t sell sweets (or at least not the kind my family and I can indulge in).

    And I only know one brother who can honestly claim that he’s read Playboy for the articles; he’s blind, and it was the Braille edition. Brings a whole new meaning to the phrase “bumpy bits.”

    😉

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    • July 2, 2012

      Chad, that’s funny. There was a video store in our area that had all ratings. When we couldn’t find the movie we were looking for I would ask my dad to take us there. He never would. I’m thankful that I had a dad that wouldn’t let us go to that video store.

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  25. Charlotte Marie
    July 2, 2012

    Rob, to be honest when I read the title I only saw the first part, “This Friday I’m Going To See Strippers…” immediately I thought Hallelujah, somebody is reaching out to those “untouchables”. Someone is going to the place where people need to know Christ instead of waiting for them to find their way to him. I thought, I wonder what kind of training Rob undertook to prepare him to traverse such rugged terrain. WOW! Then I clicked on the link and read the other part, “And Why I Only Read Playboy For The Articles” I was thrown. That age old line, “…I only read Playboy for the excellent articles” did not jive with the Christian I knew you to be much less the preacher. I have not known anybody to be able to lead someone to Christ through a magazine, especially one of that genre. However, I have heard of people leading hookers, strippers, pushers, pimps and other untoward people to Christ. Soon I learned that none of this was the thesis of your blog.

    Interesting discussion you have generated.

    GOD’s Peace.

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    • July 3, 2012

      Charlotte Marie, I wish I could handle it and help them find Jesus. I’m not the guy to do it. Thanks for the comment. Even though it wasn’t what you were thinking I appreciate you leaving a comment to let me know you stopped by.

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  26. July 2, 2012

    I am so happy to find another person who recognizes how inappropriate this all is. As a Christian woman, I’m shocked at how many of my Christian GF’s are on the 50 Shades and Magic Mike bandwagon. I too wrote a post on the subject, and strangely enough, it’s the Christians that I know that are offended.

    Admonishment is VERY unpopular nowadays. We live in a culture that basically says “do whatever you want, as long as you don’t injure anyone,” and while that’s all fine and good for non-Christians (I wouldn’t dream of imposing MY beliefs on nonbelievers), Christians are called to represent Christ to the world, to bear the image of God and bring glory and honor to his name. In scripture, the Church is often referred to as the “Bride of Christ,” and I just don’t think the Bride of Christ would be hooting and hollering in the theatre watching Magic Mike, and then hopping on Facebook and bragging about it. I do not understand why my Christian GFs can’t see this, and I’m afraid I’ve lost some friends as a result of my post. (If you’re interested in a woman’s perspective on the whole thing, you can read my post here: http://melissajenna.com/2012/06/30/50-shades-of-magic-mike-in-which-i-am-very-uncool/ )

    Anyhoo, thanks again for speaking up. I’m glad I’m not the only one!

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    • July 3, 2012

      Great post Melissa. I enjoyed reading your perspective. You also had some great comments and discussion. Thanks for sharing the link. I enjoyed reading your blog.

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  27. July 2, 2012

    You totally stole the next blog post idea I had from my mind…

    Perhaps I’ll write something similar.

    It kills me that people don’t think twice about their actions but hold
    church leaders to much higher standards.

    –@terracecrawford

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    • July 2, 2012

      You should write it anyway! The more voices in the conversation, the better. If folks are going to go around spreading the gospel of Magic Mike, we should feel empowered to speak the truth. Just my two cents.

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    • July 3, 2012

      TC, I say go for it. I’d love to read your thoughts on the subject.

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  28. Shay
    July 3, 2012

    I have to admit, I had not a clue what the “Majic Mike” thing was all about, or the 50 Shades of Grey. I was talking to a gal I work with and discovered what the movie was all about. Then I looked on my facebook page, and discovered that one of the ladies I used to go to church with actually went to see it..I was shocked, and heartbroken for her. Strangely enough, I am reminded of the movie “Fireproof” and the song “Slow Fade”. And it truly is, to quote the song, “a slow fade, when black and white turn to gray.” There’s your fifty shades of gray for you. I don’t recall seeing a whole lot of that color in God’s word for us. He’s a pretty much black/white Savior. Its’ thou shalt, or thou shalt not.

    I can not tolerate double standards in any situation, and this one is no exception. “What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander,” ladies.
    The enemy isn’t looking for wide open doors of welcome to invade our lives through, its the tiny cracks he wants in at. And both of these, the movie and the books, are just the cracks that will do the job.

    There are some good books out there, written by Christian married couples if you need help with the intimacy of your marriage.

    God intended passion to be a part of the married life, hey he wrote Song of Songs didn’t He? Now there’s a steamy book if you wanna read one. But we have got to keep it right folks. In the bounds of marriage, without all the filth attached to it.

    I will absolutely NOT be going to see that movie, nor will I be buying the 50 Shades Trilogy.

    Rob, you continually amaze and delight me with the subjects that God enables you to tackle 🙂 And you do it with such an awesome flair! Rock on brother, we are so blessed to have you as our pastor!

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    • July 3, 2012

      Shay, thank you for your kind words. I am far from perfect. I’m humbled to be your pastor. I praise God that he led you guys to Next Level.

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  29. July 3, 2012

    I loved this post. And the comments had me hooked like a good romance novel… I mean- whoops.
    Way to generate some great discussion!

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  30. July 5, 2012

    I don’t think you’re being legalistic at all and I think images have a heavy impact on both men and women, just differently because of the emotional bit.

    I was drafting my “hooters” post when I saw this one and thought “D’oh! that Rob beat me to the punch!”

    Nice work.

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  31. Pizza Royalty
    August 15, 2012

    Love your sense of humor! 🙂 Wow! Good for you! Not legalistic at all. I think you are speaking the truth in love. We all are working out our own salvation. No condemnation, but gentle motivation to view our actions.

    Personally, I believe women struggle with pornography (just not as frequent) like men. Women are too ashamed to talk about it, where men wear it like a coming of age crown.

    I will not see Magic Mike, or read Fifty Shades of Grey. This is a personal choice for me. Yes, there are absolute sins in the bible….but dare I say….and no pun intended…there are shades of grey. Those areas in our lives that we have to ask ourselves…..is this beneficial? Is this right? Does this line up with what I understand in God’s word? hmmmmmm……

    I’m sure there are things in my life, if you were to see me out in a restaurant, knocking back some martinis, that you would disagree. BUT I have been very happily married to my best friend and lover for 22 years. WE have a mutual respect, trust, and communication that has made it work. Plus God is our source for everything…gasp…even our intimacy! So instead of looking to the world to “spruce it up,” why not ask God. Sounds simple….I know. There is a reason The Song of Solomon is in the bible….just sayinnnnnnnnnnn

    Rob, thanks for always being real.

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